You’re actually better than that. Truly.

“I’m just bad at conflict.” My client shared that with me today during a session.

I asked, “So you’re bad at conflict?” I asked.

She elaborated: “I mean, I have always avoided fights and any unpleasant situation, or anything I thought would make me uncomfortable.”

“Wow. So you ALWAYS avoid any and all conflict, is that right?” I had to ask. She dialed it back a bit and admitted that there had been times when she was able to address conflict in her life.

What I heard, and what I wanted to probe a

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Wait! You have a master resume, don’t you?

Oh boy, this came up today with a client. The way she described
re-saving her resume made it clear that she had removed old jobs but didn’t keep them in their own Word document saved as “Master-Resume_YourName.doc” They were lost forever. That face in the photo on the right is about how I looked when I figured this out.

Please keep a master copy of your resume! In other words, don’t edit your current resume and remove old jobs and re-save it as your new current resume. You should save every old job you’ve

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8 Ways to Avoid Resume Typos

The irony of the situation slapped me hard across the face, so much so that I knew I had to write a blog post about it. I was obsessively tweaking my Resume Development document, commenting about avoiding resume typos at all costs. I finished making the 2,483rd tweak and ran the spell check. It caught the usual suspects, and I got the self-satisfying “You’re good to go!” message.

That’s when it happened. I went to read it over one more time and found a typo in the first line in the

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Parts is Parts (Theory)

My favorite work to do with clients during a coaching session is parts work.

There are all kinds of approaches, and I like them all. Parts theory, in my way of thinking, is the idea that all of us can falsely believe, at times, that our actions, feelings, behaviors are being driven by a part of us separate from the whole.

We account for this in our language: “There’s a part of me that just hates socializing at parties, but another part of me absolutely loves it.” “He’s/She’s a man/woman of many

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Stress and the 4 Fs

I am in New York City March 6-19, 2018, retaking the coaching classes through Erickson Coaching International that I originally completed when I took their coaching program in 2012. I wanted to sharpen my coaching skills before I have to submit three recorded coaching sessions to the International Coach Federation as a requirement to obtain my next credential with them, Professional Certified Coach (PCC).

My learning this time around is so much deeper and revealing, now that I have been coaching for six years. I find myself clapping my hands together

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I am what I say I am

Way back in my college days, I had a desire to be a full-time writer. I didn’t want to be a novelist or even a journalist, though that was my major in school. I was taking a class in creative non-fiction and was obsessing over books of literary journalism from authors like Gay Talese, Tom Wolfe, Joan Didion, Hunter Thompson and Norman Mailer.

If he was popular in 1990, I would have aspired to be the next Malcolm Gladwell.

One of my English professors recommended to me the seminal classic for writers, “Writing Down

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Mrs. Miller was a brain scientist ahead of her time.


I’ve always believed in the power of our brain to assist us in a myriad of mysterious ways, if we would just ask for the help.

At least a few times a week I have occasion to practice asking for the answers I need: sometimes, it’s as simple as not remembering a song title or someone’s name. Usually, it involves feeling overwhelmed about a project or assignment. And occasionally, it’s something rather profound and complex – those “meaning of life” questions or other existential inquiries of the Universe.

In each of these

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When perception is not necessarily reality

As a career coach, to keep myself current, I will often apply for jobs I come across on a job board. I lucked out recently when I had to complete a one-way video interview as my first screening interview with the company. Oh, have you heard of this new form of torture?

It’s when a company uses an online interviewing platform such as Spark Hire or HireVue. You as the applicant sit at your computer with your webcam on. Then, interview questions start showing up on the screen and you have

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First installment of ‘Horrible interview questions and how to answer them.’

How to answer interview question, what is your greatest weakness?

The secret to answering this question is to think of a genuine example. No one likes to hear, “I work too hard.” And if you think you can get away with saying, “I really can’t think of any weaknesses I have,” then be ready for the interviewer to say, “Oh, take all the time you need. We all have weaknesses. I’ll wait.”

If you really want a very safe answer, then think about some skill you would like to be better at.

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Once a twit, not always a twit

By twit, I mean the dumb tweets we post on Twitter. Part of the initial work of cleaning up your professional brand includes going back and deleting tweets that a Puritan grandmother living in 1636 would find objectionable.  That’s pretty drastic, but I don’t consider it to be overkill.

I recently did an audit of a client’s online presence. I found a photo he posted on Twitter with a group of his friends, all with beer bottles in hand. It looked like a backyard summer barbecue.  What’s the harm in that? I admit

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Is Coaching an Essential Service in this new COVID-19 World?

I think it is! While I have suspended meeting clients in person, I am using Zoom online meetings and the trusty phone to deliver my coaching services. New clients can still schedule with me using the "Free Appointment" tab on the top menu or using the button below. You will see that I have kept the two scheduling options - to meet by phone or in person. I ask that you choose your preferred way to meet in the future, should you decide to work with me. No matter which option you choose, phone or office, our introductory session will not be in my office until further notice. But choosing your preferred method will let me know how we will meet once this threat has passed and we're back to normal. I'll reach out to you once you schedule to find out if you'd like to meet by phone or online meeting using Zoom. While my specialty is career coaching, I was initially trained as a life coach. I am finding that many new clients are seeking life coaching from me in these uncertain and frightening times. I am thrilled to offer life coaching to you, or any type of coaching you might need.